Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Play builds essential skills!

I would just like to share an article from npr.org that I think parents should read.  I am an advocate of play-based education and would like others to realize that the "old-fashioned play" is the most effective in building skills essential to a child's future development.  You may view this article at http://www.npr.org

February 21, 2008

Old-Fashioned Play Builds Serious Skills (by Alix Sp



On October 3, 1955, the Mickey Mouse Club debuted on television. As we all now know, the show quickly became a cultural icon, one of those phenomena that helped define an era.
What is less remembered but equally, if not more, important, is that another transformative cultural event happened that day: The Mattel toy company began advertising a gun called the "Thunder Burp."
I know — who's ever heard of the Thunder Burp?
Well, no one.
The reason the advertisement is significant is because it marked the first time that any toy company had attempted to peddle merchandise on television outside of the Christmas season. Until 1955, ad budgets at toy companies were minuscule, so the only time they could afford to hawk their wares on TV was during Christmas. But then came Mattel and the Thunder Burp, which, according to Howard Chudacoff, a cultural historian at Brown University, was a kind of historical watershed. Almost overnight, children's play became focused, as never before, on things — the toys themselves.
"It's interesting to me that when we talk about play today, the first thing that comes to mind are toys," says Chudacoff. "Whereas when I would think of play in the 19th century, I would think of activity rather than an object."
Chudacoff's recently published history of child's play argues that for most of human history what children did when they played was roam in packs large or small, more or less unsupervised, and engage in freewheeling imaginative play. They were pirates and princesses, aristocrats and action heroes. Basically, says Chudacoff, they spent most of their time doing what looked like nothing much at all.
"They improvised play, whether it was in the outdoors... or whether it was on a street corner or somebody's back yard," Chudacoff says. "They improvised their own play; they regulated their play; they made up their own rules."
But during the second half of the 20th century, Chudacoff argues, play changed radically. Instead of spending their time in autonomous shifting make-believe, children were supplied with ever more specific toys for play and predetermined scripts. Essentially, instead of playing pirate with a tree branch they played Star Wars with a toy light saber. Chudacoff calls this the commercialization and co-optation of child's play — a trend which begins to shrink the size of children's imaginative space.
But commercialization isn't the only reason imagination comes under siege. In the second half of the 20th century, Chudacoff says, parents became increasingly concerned about safety, and were driven to create play environments that were secure and could not be penetrated by threats of the outside world. Karate classes, gymnastics, summer camps — these create safe environments for children, Chudacoff says. And they also do something more: for middle-class parents increasingly worried about achievement, they offer to enrich a child's mind.
Change in Play, Change in Kids
Clearly the way that children spend their time has changed. Here's the issue: A growing number of psychologists believe that these changes in what children do has also changed kids' cognitive and emotional development.
It turns out that all that time spent playing make-believe actually helped children develop a critical cognitive skill called executive function. Executive function has a number of different elements, but a central one is the ability to self-regulate. Kids with good self-regulation are able to control their emotions and behavior, resist impulses, and exert self-control and discipline.
We know that children's capacity for self-regulation has diminished. A recent study replicated a study of self-regulation first done in the late 1940s, in which psychological researchers asked kids ages 3, 5 and 7 to do a number of exercises. One of those exercises included standing perfectly still without moving. The 3-year-olds couldn't stand still at all, the 5-year-olds could do it for about three minutes, and the 7-year-olds could stand pretty much as long as the researchers asked. In 2001, researchers repeated this experiment. But, psychologist Elena Bodrova at Mid-Continent Research for Education and Learning says, the results were very different.
"Today's 5-year-olds were acting at the level of 3-year-olds 60 years ago, and today's 7-year-olds were barely approaching the level of a 5-year-old 60 years ago," Bodrova explains. "So the results were very sad."
Sad because self-regulation is incredibly important. Poor executive function is associated with high dropout rates, drug use and crime. In fact, good executive function is a better predictor of success in school than a child's IQ. Children who are able to manage their feelings and pay attention are better able to learn. As executive function researcher Laura Berk explains, "Self-regulation predicts effective development in virtually every domain."
The Importance of Self-Regulation
According to Berk, one reason make-believe is such a powerful tool for building self-discipline is because during make-believe, children engage in what's called private speech: They talk to themselves about what they are going to do and how they are going to do it.
"In fact, if we compare preschoolers' activities and the amount of private speech that occurs across them, we find that this self-regulating language is highest during make-believe play," Berk says. "And this type of self-regulating language... has been shown in many studies to be predictive of executive functions."
And it's not just children who use private speech to control themselves. If we look at adult use of private speech, Berk says, "we're often using it to surmount obstacles, to master cognitive and social skills, and to manage our emotions."
Unfortunately, the more structured the play, the more children's private speech declines. Essentially, because children's play is so focused on lessons and leagues, and because kids' toys increasingly inhibit imaginative play, kids aren't getting a chance to practice policing themselves. When they have that opportunity, says Berk, the results are clear: Self-regulation improves.
"One index that researchers, including myself, have used... is the extent to which a child, for example, cleans up independently after a free-choice period in preschool," Berk says. "We find that children who are most effective at complex make-believe play take on that responsibility with... greater willingness, and even will assist others in doing so without teacher prompting."
Despite the evidence of the benefits of imaginative play, however, even in the context of preschool young children's play is in decline. According to Yale psychological researcher Dorothy Singer, teachers and school administrators just don't see the value.
"Because of the testing, and the emphasis now that you have to really pass these tests, teachers are starting earlier and earlier to drill the kids in their basic fundamentals. Play is viewed as unnecessary, a waste of time," Singer says. "I have so many articles that have documented the shortening of free play for children, where the teachers in these schools are using the time for cognitive skills."
It seems that in the rush to give children every advantage — to protect them, to stimulate them, to enrich them — our culture has unwittingly compromised one of the activities that helped children most. All that wasted time was not such a waste after all.

Boys can play with dolls too!

I walked in on my son playing with his doll, (who he calls baby Angelo).  He was kissing the baby, talking softly to him and was rocking and lifting him.  He then removed baby Angelo's clothes saying that his dirty and pretended to dress him up again.  As I saw my little boy playing with Angelo, I remembered something that I often heard, "BOYS SHOULD NOT PLAY WITH DOLLS."

Why shouldn't boys play with dolls?

I have encountered a number of parents who do not allow their sons to play with dolls and other similar toys.  Dolls are not gender specific.  In fact, I have read a couple of articles that explains that allowing young boys to play with dolls is actually beneficial to their development.

What we fail to realize is that playing with dolls require a number of things like, imagination, care, nurture, and empathy.  Boys can and should be encouraged to play with dolls and play house.  Try it, it might help your child prepare for the arrival of a younger sibling, care for a younger classmate or school mate or even prepare him to be a nurturing father someday.  

Monday, August 15, 2011

Fearfully and Wonderfully Made

Fearfully and wonderfully made, this is what we all are.  God created each and everyone of us with great care and love.  He knows each of us by name and knows even the exact number of hairs on our heads.  To help Ynigo know who he is, Jason led a family devotions which centred on the verse, 
                 I am fearfully and wonderfully made. - Psalm 139:14           

We then decided on actions to use to make memorizing the verse easier.  Jason then explained this verse to Ynigo.  Afterwards, I made Ynigo look at himself on the mirror, identify the parts that God made and then asked him to draw a portrait of him.  



To supplement, we taught Ynigo the song, "God Made Me" which he truly enjoyed and would sing even without accompaniment.  


 

Monday, August 8, 2011

Dealing with Frustrations

Ynigo was playing with one of his toys earlier.  He wanted the toy to stay on its skateboard but it kept falling off.  Ynigo then started to get frustrated.  After trying over and over again, he began to cry.  Children do get frustrated and usually they resort to crying when all else fails.  I understood how he felt but I had to help him deal with his frustration the healthiest way.  I encouraged him by telling him I know he feels frustrated and that I understand how he feels but I had to remind him that he cannot cry and shout everything he gets disappointed or things do not go his way.  Children need to be able to practice controlling their emotions, thus Ynigo had to practice today.  If I just went ahead and fixed his problem for him then he would not have been able to practice this skill and would have lost a valuable a-ha moment (problem solving task).  


I first had to remind him of our rule that he can cry but he cannot shout or wail.  He settled down immediately.  With tears still falling down his cheeks I then tried to encourage him to try to think of a solution...  After just about 1 minute and a half, he then said, "Mommy, it does not stick.  I tried again and again but it does not stick.  Let's put tape."  I trhen hugged him and said, "that's a great idea! I told you, you will be able to figure it out, you just had to think."  A smile then broke from his small face.  


Ynigo was not only able to practice and succeeded controlling his emotions, but he was able to problem solve too!

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Yes, Master Ynigo!

After helping Ynigo bathe and get ready this morning, I was surprised when he looked at me and said, "Mommy, drink your vitamins now".  I had to thank him for reminding me as I did really forget.  How observant and thoughtful can a child be?  I seems like I am not the only one doing the caring and nurturing, my little one is doing the same for me now too.  


He has grown up real fast... I can hardly remember the times when he communicated through crying, cooing and babbling.  Currently, he is boy with great communications skills, able to sustain discussions with adults around.  He also uses this advanced language skills to show care and remind people like me about little things like my vitamins.  


Moreover, Ynigo also reminds others about good manners.  For example while dining together, Ynigo heard his granny say something with food still in her mouth, Ynigo immediately raised his hand to gesture stop and said, "Granny, don't talk yet.  Swallow first."  He also does not forget to  remind people around him to say "opo", "thank you" and "you're welcome".  It has been a joy seeing how he has been internalizing character traits we have been trying to model and teach him.  I am then reminded that we, as parents, need to be careful with how we act, we have to be consistent, we have to walk the talk.       

Nurture the Nature

I have been reading the book, "Nurture the Nature" by Gurian.  This is about understanding your child's core personality and parenting him/her in the appropriate way.  It's funny how we, as parents, tend to forget at times that our children have their own unique personalities which they bring into this world.  In fact, some believe that they somewhat can guess the personalities of their children while even in the womb.  We try very hard to make our kids become who and act how we want them to be... missing the chance to truly see who they are in the flesh.  We are supposed to know each of our children individually and deal with them according to their uniqueness.  This book helps us see not only our children's personalities but even ours.  


According to Gurian we are to parent intentionally, provide discipline, materials and activities that each of our children would like and are interested in.  I found the book a bit challenging as there are quizzes and logs that I am supposed to do but I do see why it is important.  Even teachers of young children know how important observation is in knowing a child and for providing appropriate curriculum for him/her.  Why shouldn't we do the same?  Are we not supposed to be the experts on our children? As a teacher I feel so sad when I encounter parents who seem to not really know their own children; some when asked questions about their child would have to ask their nanny for the answer.  Try to know your children.  Set individual date times with each of them, for both your benefit.    

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Playing Footsie!

For the Concept "I have feet", Ynigo and I did a couple of activities.  I will just highlight a few that he seemed to have enjoyed extremely.


           1. Foot painting: We painted using his feet.  To incorporate foot movement, Ynigo was asked to tiptoe, jump, run, walk and skip on butcher paper with paint on his feet.  He then compared the prints that each movement made.  We also did fast and slow.  This is a very easy activity that can last for a long while as your child enjoys the squishy feeling of paint on his feet and the movements too.  


              2. Feeling Footsies - For the next activity, Ynigo was asked to use his feet to feel... He was given a tray with different objects that he had to describe and guess using his feet (with his eyes covered of course).  Ynigo kept on giggling and asking to guess more objects.  This activity also targeted his coordination as he even tried to lift the objects with his feet.